True Talk

There comes a time in a woman’s life were she has to decide what kind of woman she wants to be despite everything happening around her. Despite what she’s done and what she failed to do. I called those periods Shock Period. When unexpected events occur simultaneously and everything seems like it’s tumbling down around you. At those moments you realize that you’re stronger than you thought. In the process of picking up and rearranging the pieces in your life you begin to find hidden treasures in yourself, things you never knew were there in the first place.

Rejection is a painful thing, but it’s also a good thing because it makes you look within yourself. To find out different dimensions of whom you are. It makes you want to be more and grow more, to have something to offer the world. It makes you humble. With humility you can’t take God’s grace on your life for granted. You should work extra hard and smart to be anything you want to be. My parents would always say, “You really have to shine your eye and put your eye on the ground to survive in this world”. That expression makes so much sense right now. They were trying to tell me, I shouldn't leave my head in the clouds, I should bring it down, be realistic and aware of my surroundings. This shouldn't stop me from pursuing my dreams but I should be rooted in solid values.

So how are you going to have your feet on the ground and reach for the stars simultaneously? You have to grow, you really have to grow. You have to have a really strong foundation to balance out the heights you aspire to reach. Take note, you’re going to look like a weirdo because more people would rather tread on easier paths. You have to have strong adaptability skills, to weather any climate presented to you.  You’re not going to see eye to eye with everyone and that’s okay. You have to take care of your body, mind and spirit, because balance is going to be a very important area of your life, every area of your life has to be fed and nourished. Like an Iroko tree, you would stand out.

So ladies, naivety isn't cute, neither is it a virtue, shine your eye!

The Great Illusionist

Life is a garden, God the gardener and owner of our individual gardens which he gives to us. God places little exciting treasures like Easter eggs, potted plants, beautiful vases and ornaments. They always blend with our gardens, so we don’t really notice them, but when we do, we ask ourselves, why we didn’t notice it all along. Oprah calls these little moments Ah Ha moments and that’s the perfect way to describe them. I discovered one recently.

Like Magic, Beauty and Perfection are both illusions that only become real based on how good you are as an Illusionist. We must master this, take hold of it and never let it go. It’s draws people in, while the real work is done without their prying eyes. It’s done effortlessly, with precision and a lot of practice. People might laugh, stare and wonder, why you’re feeling yourself these days, but if you do this well enough, with sleepless nights, tears and hunger, you will find perfection and no one would ever question your powers. So do your squats and don’t let boys be mean to you. Suck in that belly and wear that corset because Lord knows that, even Beyoncé wears six pantyhose to keep everything nice and tight.

Watch that makeup tutorial on YouTube and contour like a pro, because even Starlets look like monsters without makeup (Charlie Thereon). Read that book and go for that seminar, because having an intelligent conversation actually requires you to have something intelligent to say. Don’t you dare let anyone hear you cry or see your massacre running; we have pillows and water proof makeup for a reason. Pray, confide and complain to God, because we can’t have silly bitches saying shit about us.

The beautiful thing about great illusionist is the fact that only the great ones would see the flaw and get the trick. It might take time but you’ll definitely find like-minded souls who take pride in their craft. They may be lovers or friends but never friends with benefits, because those things don’t exist. The fun thing about being a great illusionist is finding a great partner to put on the most magnificent shows with.